Shake the Frame, Six Years Later!

Last week I was poking around on the blog for something, a photo or a date, and I realized that in a few days it would be exactly six years since our very first post, the introduction to our blog and the start of our great Durham adventure. I made a note in my calendar, and today, May 16th, 2014, I am reflecting on the time that's passed since May 16th, 2008, and all the many new joys in Matt's and my life. Both days were Fridays; I don't remember the weather on that day in Boston, where I was writing from, but today in Durham it's a gem of a spring day; sunny, 65 and climbing, birds singing their hearts out.

Here are a few highlights:

We love our house. If you followed the (now hiberating) blog at all, you'll have seen the transition from abandoned, sad little house missing all its life-giving systems, previously "cowboy-ed" into a crappy rental, back to its better bones, and slowly filled with color, beloved items, and love. It's not perfect; the kitchen is still crap and the bathroom is still about to fall into the crawl space. We ignore daily the mold that is likely about to reach out and kill us from behind the tub walls. But we love it, because we've made it as beautiful as we can, and it holds our happiness.

February 2014

April 2014

 Cleveland-Holloway has changed beyond our craziest expectations. Some ways are subtle, like the daily interactions we have with folks on the street, both in the type of folks and in the conversations. The tensions are different; less wrought with talk of drug dealing (though it's not been entirely eradicated) and shady activity, and more to do with real estate, new development, and "new neighbor" drama and list-serv gold that's native to a changing environment. Slowly the empty houses, once so plentiful, have been filling in with new life, much like ours did, though fewer and fewer of them are being renovated by their owners—almost all of them instead by developers and contractors who are selling them "all fixed up" to varying degrees of quality.

While there have been periods of burn-out and others of distress with our neighborhood growing pains, we've settled into what feels like a true era of peace. Nellie and Craig moved into Carlton Street and now have a beautifully designed house and kick-ass yard, not to mention Ludo, a new friend for Cleveland. A year and a half ago we got amazing new friends in Emily-Kate and Laura, who bought and renovated the house on the corner of Oakwood and Primitive, essentially backing up to the swamp behind our house. They brought chickens, bees, fresh garden veggies, doggie friends Ruby and Chispa, spontaneous full moon roof-sits and dinner parties, and then last summer more new friends in Camille and Chris, who moved into Jennifer's house next door to us. Mallard Avenue itself is now completely full of lovely new neighbors, some of whom are so new we're still getting acquainted. We have so many good friends within these few small blocks, and it's amazing to know that any one of them is just a phone call or quick walk away if we need them.

Durham itself has just blown up with creative new businesses, innovation, and life. When we first arrived, the only bar downtown was Talk of the Town, and there were only a handful of restaurants, most of them only open for lunch. A few months later, on election night 2008, the Pinhook opened, and since then there's been a cascade of offerings that shows no sign of slowing. Even more exciting has been the changes to Central Park / Geer Street / the DIY district / whatever-you-want-to-call-it (as long as you don't call it NoCo - ugh). Starting with Fullsteam in 2010, there followed Geer Street Garden, Cocoa Cinnamon, Motorco, The Pit, and more on the way. We've seen the streets crammed with thousands of people for events like Marry Durham and Mardi Gras. We never could have called that one six years ago, when the area was nothing but abandoned garages and shuttered car showrooms, but we're so lucky to be a 15-minute walk away from that magic.

And on some more personal fronts:

We got married. Matt re-created our infamous first-date walk across Boston on September 16th, 2012, and popped the question at Massimino's, 6.5 years after our first meal together there (side note: hear us tell a story about how we met at The Monti last month). We planned for a year, and then tied the knot* on my parents' farm on October 12th, 2013. You can see some highlights below. It was awesome; pretty much our favorite day in history.



Matt & Jessie : wedding highlights from Inkspot Crow Films on Vimeo.
(The password is inkspotcrow)

We got married on Down Yonder Farm, surrounded by our loved ones.

*We decided to wait to get legally married until North Carolina stops being so bigoted and backwards towards its gay citizens. This decision became certain after Amendment One passed. We believe the days are numbered, though, until marriage is available to all, at which point we'll head to the courthouse.

We changed our names. After lots of conversation, we decided to smoosh our three last names into one: Gladdek. We like it! It feels kind of weird to be sans-hyphen after all these years.

My photography business is going well. I feel super lucky with my long-time clients and some newer ones, and have recently started renting a studio in the aforementioned Central Park district, right behind Motorco. I'm (still....) working on a new website... but for the moment my old one is still sufficing.

Matt got a kick-ass new job. After finishing his two Masters programs at UNC, he spent two years working for Quintiles, and then in December of 2013 was offered his dream job: Director of Government Relations at Downtown Durham, Inc. He's over the moon. I've never in our 8+ years together seen this man so happy. Both his office and my studio are a 10-15 minute walk from our house and each other. We meet up for lunch some days. It's a good life!

We're having a baby. See how I snuck that one in on ya? We got the news about two weeks after the honeymoon. Ha. He (yes, he!) is due around July 8th. We don't have a name yet, but we're taking suggestions. We might have to meet the little bugger first.

We're pretty damn excited about this one. We have no real idea what to expect, but we kind of like it that way. As I sit and write, his tiny feet are poking around my left side, visibly making my belly move. What a science-fictiony feeling. I love it.

We're building an addition! Finally! We get to address that crappy kitchen and bathroom, AND add some great extra space for Baby Gladdek. We're thrilled to be working with Center Studio Architecture in downtown Durham, since we're longtime fans of their work. David Arneson and Will Rhodenhiser have already been so awesome and inspiring in their designs. We'll likely get started sometime mid- to late-summer, during which time we'll move into a tiny house (about 450'sq) on Emily-Kate and Laura's property around the corner. If we're lucky, we'll be back in by Christmas, but more likely sometime after that. I plan to photograph the house as-is one last time before things really get torn up; I'll share the photos here when I do.


My dad got sick, like super sick, but fortunately is doing really well at the moment. You can check out his and my mom's blog about the experience here. Right now, we're just going to enjoy the gorgeous spring and summer, and enjoy the foray into grandparent-hood. Like I said, his health is pretty awesome right now, and while we're still going scan-to-scan, I have a very positive feeling about things.

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It hasn't been without struggle, but seriously, I'm pretty bowled over with gratitude for the many, many charms and blessings of life in the past six years since that first post. I raise a glass (of sparkling grape juice) to the next six and beyond.

Cleveland is 6.5 years old!

Shake the frame of this house, distress the wood, make it shout!

Jessie

We Recommend: ROBB DAMMAN

When we bought our house three years ago, while still living in Boston, we pushed ahead quickly to get work done and in our hurry we cut corners and took advice from contractors without doing our own research all the time. We got recommendations on contractors, but rarely got multiple quotes for projects. We also generally left contractors to work on their own, assuming this was their business and they knew more than we did. Nine times out of ten, we received good recommendations and good advice, and have managed to skate through relatively unscathed. We ended up with a really great and efficient HVAC unit, and blowing in extra insulation into our attic has saved us a ton of money in heating bills, for example. However, we cut some corners on repairing our foundation, and it has just come time to pay the piper.

Luckily, the foundation work we did was really an inexpensive stop gap measure and relatively easily fixed. We had taken the advice of a contractor to put up a couple of cross joists in our crawlspace supported by a few metal screw jacks to help support our floor. Recently though, after a New Year's Eve Dance Party, we noticed our living room floor was beginning to feel more like a trampoline than a floor. When I went into the crawlspace to check it out I noticed our insulation was beginning to fall down, and a couple screw jacks had begun to slip and slide under the weight, especially since we hadn't poured new concrete footers for the screw jacks to sit on.

We called Sara Lachenman at Four Over One Design to ask for subcontractor recommendations (Sara does great design work, and is well versed in historic preservation work). We were determined to get multiple quotes, and to put the contractors through their paces. We wanted to ensure the contractors were good communicators, prompt, and dependable. We called both of Sarah's recommendations, one of which was Rob Damman.

Robb returned our first phone call the same day, and scheduled a site visit and quote for the following week. Robb was the first contractor to come give a quote, and after assessing our foundation and our concerns (Jessie and I didn't want a dance party to end in our crawlspace) he laid out a thorough response to the problem. He even emailed me a detailed quote for labor and materials by the end of the day. Robb was clear I should email him if I had any questions.

The second contractor came out the next day and he also assessed the problem and asked questions, and he suggested a much simpler approach. Now this second contractor is very good, and well respected, so I was a bit taken aback at the disparity in their suggestions. I asked him why he wouldn't do x,y, and z which Robb had suggested, and he responded that it wasn't necessary and probably overkill. I thanked the second contractor and let him know Jessie and I would make a decision in a week. He also sent me his quote by the end of the day. (Big thanks again to Sara, these are both great recommendations). His quote was much less work, and therefore much less money.

Since I knew I was out of my depth on deciding between these two projects, I called a general contractor friend, Miles Honeycutt who was just finishing up our friends' home, the Petty Home, for his advice. I proceeded to completely misrepresent the work Robb had planned to do and Miles thought there was a number of problems with it. I decided to call Robb though, and ask him to respond to Mile's criticisms, as well as why the second contractor's plan was so different from his. Robb's response is the reason we picked him, and why we're so vocally recommending him.

Robb very gently let me know I had misunderstood his plans, and was able to re-explain the work in different language without coming across as condescending. He was also completely unoffended I had questioned his plan, and when I asked if he thought his plan was overkill, he told me the second contractor's plan was perfectly adequate,  "but when I heard 'dance party, I figured you wanted something more." He also never criticized anyone else's ideas and made sure I knew I could call again with more questions if I had them. We called Robb the next day to let him know he had the job.

For the next week Robb showed up every morning when he said he would, he answered any questions we had and made sure we understood everything he was doing without giving us too much information. He kept the job site incredibly clean, and his work is meticulous. He also did two things which in my opinion went over and beyond my expectations for a contractor. First, he recommended some excellent preventative measures (vapor barrier, and new insulation) which in retrospect our first contractor should have installed. Second, he recommended one change to the work plan which went above housing code requirements, and he managed to keep the additional materials cost very low, and managed to get the extra work done without charging more for labor. Robb went above and beyond the work in our agreement just because that's the kind of guy he is.



During the course of our work with Robb, we also found out our next door neighbor had used Robb to install some windows and she couldn't speak highly enough about his attention his craftsmanship, as well as his ability to communicate. And it turns out he is an actual artist too, both of his blogs are below. You can look forward to seeing a couple more posts about Robb here as we plan to hire him and his carpentry skill for two more projects which will hopefully include custom made desks, and re-used lath board for a dining room table.

We hope you hire Robb for your next project!


Robb Damman
919 621 5481
robbdamman101@gmail.com

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An Epic Tale of a Girl and Her Bikes

Since I've known Jessie, she and I have been searching for her perfect bicycle. Her bicycle would the ideal marriage of style and utility, but unfortunately the beauty was always more important than the utility to Jessie.

Kim posing on Jessie's 3-speed Raleigh, 2006

Way back in 2006, Jessie had a beautiful old green Raleigh 3-speed cruiser. The size was right, the brakes worked (mostly) and the three speed hub worked like it was supposed to. Jessie loved this bike so much that she used it as a prop for elaborate photo shoots to hone her craft. This beautiful bike was not long for the mean streets of Boston though, and the cable lock was the only thing left in front of her apartment one morning.

After the green Raleigh, Jessie had a succession of old Schwinn, Raleigh, and Columbia cruisers. The first replacement was a blue Schwinn cruiser. This bike had a three speed hub, but only one speed worked reliably. I replaced the brake pads and cables, but rebuilding a three speed hub was outside of my skillset. This bike ended up sitting in Central Square (Cambridge) until we decided to move down to Durham and had to sell it.

The next bike Jessie bought was a bright red Columbia three speed cruiser with a great basket. This bike suffered from another broken hub, and wheels so warped that the brakes were ineffectual and the wheels made an ungodly noise when they rubbed up against the fenders. This bike sat locked together with the blue Schwinn.

Jessie was determined to have a bike in Cambridge, though, and so bought a third bike she had managed to find for cheap on Craigslist. This was a maroon ten-speed with wheels in pretty good condition, a basket, and fenders! It wasn't nearly as beautiful as Jessie's old Raleigh, but after a few hours of replacing brakes, cables, and tuning the gears it was a passable bike for local errands, and it was built like a tank. One morning we woke to find some hooligans had knocked over all the bikes on the street the previous night, and Jessie's bike had sustained a pretty vicious attack to push it to the ground. But in spite of the dings and bruises, everything was in working order. This Schwinn was the only bike of Jessie's to make the journey south with us.

Once we got to Durham, though, the bike sat unused. It was heavy and not designed for climbing Durham's hills. This bike was soon sold to a neighbor, only to be replaced by beautiful matching his-and-hers Columbia 3 speed cruisers. Jessie had grand visions of the two of us cycling to the farmer's market and around town with all of Durham whispering about what a stylish couple we were. These bikes were beautiful, but again only two speeds worked on each hub and it made the hills more difficult than they had to be.

About two years ago, Jessie decided she was finally willing to spend the money on a new bicycle, and with a little encouragement from me she started down the rabbit hole of bike blogs. She looked at Globe Cycles, and Treks, Electras, Publics, and Linuses. I pushed for Linus cycles because the reviews I read said they were the best value and I thought they got the design just right. Jessie was partial to Public cycles, though. Public also gets the design mostly right, but they charge a pretty significant premium for the design.

The past two months reached a climax of discussions and turmoil about color, fenders, 3 speed vs. 8 speed, style vs. utility, etc. etc. The decision finally came down to two basic styles of Linus bikes but the only stores to sell Linus were in Richmond, so naturally Jessie got to be on a first name basis with Chip from Pibby's Cycles. Chip is awesome. He took a ton of time answering all of Jessie's questions, including difficult technical questions about swapping out hubs and gear ratios for hill climbing, and important questions about just how beautiful the sky blue Linus Mixte is. For the record, "it's the most beautiful color I've ever seen," according to Chip.

Naturally, however, Jessie could only make these decisions in person, so this past Friday we headed up to Richmond to check out the Dutchi, and the Mixte.

The black Dutchi was at Carytown Bikes in Richmond, and is the type of simple and beautiful bike we saw all over Copenhagen this past summer, but the bike's relaxed geometry make it ideal for flatter terrain. After a week of reading the Copenhagen Cycle Chic blog, Jessie wanted this bike but I pushed to go see the blue Mixte at Pibby's.

As soon as we walked in the door Jessie let out a sound similar to a squeal of delight after seeing the powder blue mixte in the afternoon light. Chip was in the shop, and was just as friendly in person as he was on the phone. Chip adjusted the bike for Jessie's test ride, and advised her on a hilly route that she could put the three speed hub to the test. While Jessie was riding, Chip and I geeked out about ways to swap out chain rings to give Jessie an easier time on the hills, but before we were done talking Jessie was back from her ride and had no problems with the hills. She's much fitter than she gives herself credit for.

We chatted with Chip a bit longer, but Jessie still wasn't sure what she wanted so we went across the street for a cup of iced coffee and a chance to look at the photos of the bikes and to chat about the pros and cons. And just like how we came to the decision to move in together, after 5 minutes of discussion, we had decided the mixte was more practical for the hills and it was also the bike that really grabbed Jessie. We finally found the ideal marriage of beauty and utility!

I'm looking forward to Saturday morning bike rides to the farmer's market, and other adventures we're sure to have with each other and other two-wheeled friends (I'm looking at you, Craig & Nellie).

[If you are in or near Richmond and you're looking for a bike, you really should go check out Pibby's. And if you're in the Durham area, Seven Star Cycles will start carrying Linuses once they get up and running, and Adrian is a great guy too.]

The Next Phase...

Save for our bathrooms, kitchen, and some finished carpentry work, our house is basically finished. Our bathroom and kitchen are serviceable until such a time we can afford to do the level of work we want. In the mean time though, we hope to use this blog to occasionally document our lives and adventures in Durty Durham. We hope to help keep Durham Disreputable.*

We hope you enjoy what follows.

*Apparently Jim Kellough can be credited with creating the "keep Durham Disreputable" tag and bumper stickers.

Wanted: Your Opinion! (For once...)

It's a rare opportunity, folks. Matt and I just picked up a great 11x7' Persian rug off Craigslist last night, and we're figuring out how/whether it works in our living room. There are several factors to consider, so we figured we'd put it out there for feedback. Here are some rough shots of things are they currently are (including a bit of messiness).






Things to consider:

• The curtains. Too busy now?
• The chairs. We always considered recovering the cushions on the mid-century chairs. Should we, and if so, with what color/pattern?
• The wood trim. We've pretty much decided as of late to repaint the trim in this room white. Matt feels like it dictates the other colors in the room too strongly, as well as darkens the room and walls over all. I like it, but am willing to go for it as I've always liked white trim. Thoughts on this, with the added rug?
• Wall color. Sounds crazy, but we're considering going white for this as well - perhaps just a teeeeeny shade off from the trim (if it's white). A cool white.

Okay, I know we asked for it. Go nuts!

*Note: I originally posted this on Umbrella Love, my other blog, by mistake, so apologies to the two of you whose posts got deleted. The perils of managing more than one blog!